Monday, May 31, 2010

unanswered questions and what's it all mean?

no, i'm not talking about Lost. though many have been asking all week what's it all mean....but instead, i'm talking about my "love" life. yes, quotes intentional and necessary. i've had a whirlwind week and am now finding myself questioning everything and wondering what's next. but i just don't know.
so here's how this week went with Brooklyn.
Last sunday- hung out and watched lost til he had to go to work at 10:30.
Monday: brought over pizza, watched tv, hung out on the couch til way too late at night. sleeep over (more on this later).
Tuesday/Wednesday: took a chill pill from one another.
Thursday: dinner and a trip to his place. met his cats. too sweet. hung on his couch til he had to go to work.
Friday: Dinner and drinks and lazy on my couch til he had to go to work.
Saturday: Hockey and homemade chicken fingers until he had to go work.
Sunday: BBQ/Pool Party at a teacher's house. til he had to go to work (stupid work!)

and that leaves us here, Monday, where he actually just did me a huge favor and gave me a ride from the VW dealership where I left my car to be fixed (stupid check engine light!) but then he was off to bowl with a friend and kinda seemed annoyed at me. hence the giant bag of confusion that i am right now.
i'm going to not freak out and chalk it up to a little bit of "imsickofyou-itis" seeing as we've spent 5 of the last 7 days together.
but at the same time, tomorrow's technically our last day to see each other since he leaves for Florida just before I leave for NY and we don't have any plans whatsoever, so i'm not even sure we'll do anything more than chill on my couch like always.
grr, wtf. how do i always get myself into situations where it gets very commitment-like very fast (hesitating to use the word serious).
so here's the questions running through my head....
1. are we in a relationship? and is this "relationship" continuing through the summer? Pre-weekend I would not have defined what we are as a relationship, but i would have undoubtedly said that we'll continue "relating" through the summer. now i'm not as sure. I definitely think it's best that we're both single for the summer. but i also really want to know that i have something(one) amazing to come back to in August.

2.Why are we stalled at first base? ok, now we know what happens to lisadatesvegas behind closed doors typically stays there. but i really need some answers here. i've never met a guy who hasn't at least TRIED to get in my pants. wait, that doesn't sound right. obviously there are many guys who don't try to get in my pants, but what I mean is, i've never dated someone who, once a mutual desire for one another has been established, has not tried to take it to more than just some lip action. until i met brooklyn. 3 weeks in, nothing but kisses.
many of you are familiar with the lisa standard definition of a hook-up as being "making out for 5 minutes or longer, or in a reclined position, or when hands come into contact with under-the-bathing-suit parts of the body". by the lisa standard definition, brooklyn and i have barely hooked up. only in the loosest sense of the definition.
part of me would blame his silly work schedule for a lack of progress in that direction. i mean, with our dates all ending with him having to leave for work, it doesn't exactly invite bedroom fun. but this is not exactly the case...
last monday was brooklyn's night off, so we stayed up late and as I got tired, i invited him to spend the night. he came up to my room and laid on my bed, fully dressed in jeans. i got under the covers and invited him to join me. but he didn't. he stayed on top of the covers. and dressed. and i passed out.
so then this weekend, we were talking about who knows what before the topic of hooking up came up and he said that a hook up is a kiss. so i told him my very specific definition of a hook up and he didn't necessarily disagree, but thought that less was more. in other words, a simple kiss was a hook up in his book.
this doesn't quite explain to me why the base coach is holding us at first base, but whatever.
i guess it's for the best. why get all excited over something only to have it yanked away in a few days.
unless he's thoroughly repulsed by me.
or he's hiding something like warts.

3. CRAP! what do i do about my blog?! seriously, if things become officially serious, i don't think i can hide the fact that i've been keeping a blog about my dating adventures secret. maybe i could for a little longer, but eventually it would have to come out. so when? do i keep writing until then? maybe delete some posts? i just don't know! I would hate to keep writing. it's been so much fun! and as this particular post proves, it's a great way to air my frustrations and questions and hell, dating life, to my friends...
so i don't know. my next post will likely be from my NY bedroom but after that...who knows?

ok...that's all i can think of now. another post that doesn't quite live up to the thoughtful witty prose that floated through my head all week, but i'm spent. two days with kiddos to go, then i'm leaving las vegas on a jet plane.
hope to see most of my readers in the not too distant future!!
love you!

1 comment:

  1. I just got caught up on this week's update and last week's. Brooklyn definitely sounds like a good guy, and I wonder if perhaps his mood change at the end of the weekend is based upon the distance that is about to come between you... It definitely sounds like he is just as smitten, and as much as guys like to play tough, I bet he is worried about things being too "commitment-like" so quickly immediately before a months-long separation. Boys are stupid and when they get scared they are even more stupid it seems. That's my take on it at least!! Hope to see you later this week!

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